How many children do you want? Have you braved breaching the subject of having another with your wife yet? When to have baby number two is a minefield.
I learnt fairly quickly and with a bump that asking the wife if she fancies another kid inside 24 hours of having one is a mistake. I’m still carrying the limp from the dead leg she gave 10 weeks later…
Anyway, this is a fairly legitimate question to ask, but timing is important. It is definitely worth allowing things to settle down, her body to recover somewhat and enough time for the hideous labour pains to be a more distant memory.
The question is this:
Do you A) have another baby close together because whilst your tired, changing nappies and breastfeeding, you might as well just extend that period for a little bit longer. Or B) Give a good enough gap so you’re going into the next one fresh as a daisy… or at least having had a solid 7 hours sleep!
There’s certainly pro’s and con’s on both sides of this debate. On one hand I think that it would be nice for the boy to have a sibling close his own age so they can grow up together and play together and ultimately be good friends. Not that the same thing couldn’t happen with a larger age gap! On the other hand the age gap will allow us time to find our feet again. Enjoy a drunken night again and sleep through the hour of 3am! The wife said to me that she couldn’t possibly be any more exhausted than she is at the moment so she might as well be exhausted and pregnant. We’re in the thick of dirty nappy heaven and our washing machine is on 3 times a day… surely it would make sense to have another one whilst we’re in this phase! Why would you come out of the phase only to go back through it a few months later?
In reality, this comes down to a personal preference. The amount of factors effecting when you have a baby are vast and need to be considered and at the same time, you have to do what’s right for you and your family.
I’d love another baby. We were looking through photo’s of the boy when he was just born and I already miss that stage. It has gone so quick, I’d like to have it again. I’m anticipating this occurring for every stage though! Help! Going by that mentality I’ll be having a kid every 1 1/4 years….!
What do you think? Is there the perfect age gap between siblings? What’s the age gap between your kids? Does it work?